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Saturday, July 29, 2017

The integration of mindfulness and self inquiry

In my experience, the primary goal of meditation is to dissolve the perceived boundaries between subject and object, dissolve the sense that there is a "self" riding around in the head, separate from the rest of the body and the world. The benefit of doing this is that cognition becomes embodied and decentralized. Things become "known" on their own as such, without there being the neurotic dictator running things from the top.

Much of the meditation that is taught today, mindfulness (or Vipassana), is aimed towards clarifying the sensory field, noticing moment-to-moment experience without the filter of narrative overlay that we are normally embedded in. In Buddhism in particular, it is about noticing that sensations seem to have three predominant qualities: they are (a) impermanent and thus (b) cannot give ultimate satisfaction, and (c) they are impersonal, i.e., the are not part of nor do they belong to a self.

While this is a very helpful technique that can lead to awakening (however somebody wants to define that), I feel like it is more effective in combination with self inquiry. Self inquiry comes mainly from the Vedanta tradition (although it can also be found to some extent in Zen and other non-Therevada traditions). There has been some discussion of combining the techniques, but IMO not in a very interesting or integrative way.


Here is how self inquiry can integrate with mindfulness. One can define mindfulness as being a two part process of cultivation: awareness and acceptance. Awareness means becoming aware (or alternatively objectifying) more and more phenomenon in awareness. So, for example, becoming aware of sensations in the body, perhaps noticing the signature of stress and anxiety in the form of a micro tension somewhere, and then just accepting that it is there, not trying to push it away or hold onto it. By doing this, more often then not, the tension starts to dissolve on it own. This can happen over and over again with increasingly subtler and deeper aspects of the mind. Relieving the top layers of tension opens space for other deeper tensions in the subconscious to arise, become conscious, and then again dissolve themselves. Often people are able to work through years of suppressed trauma through this method, slowly and deliberately.

Related to this process, self inquiry helps to bring things to awareness more directly, to augment the first step in the mindfulness process, in particular the sensations associated with the sense of being the observer, and which are not normally recognized as sensations. So what is self-inquiry? It is normally associated with asking oneself the question "who am I?" or a similar type of question, and then "seeing what comes up". Here I am going to give a broader definition that incorporates three particular orientations that on the surface are contradictory, but which each end with the same goal. They may seem contradictory because there are two fundamental things happening in a dialectical manner. One is the movement to notice directly the selfless nature of experience. The second is just the opposite, to deliberately notice the self nature of experience. By approaching experience from both directions iteratively, the intuitive mind can notice what seems to be the most true.

The first orientation is that of affirming alternative stances. One can affirm the selfless nature of experience, for example, stating things like "there is knowing", "there is seeing", "there is the sensed", etc. The point of doing this is to notice that these things are just kind of happening on their own, without much special effort from a "doer". Alternatively one could affirm the opposite. They could state something like "I", "me", "mine", "I am looking", "I am seeing", "this experience belongs to me", "this is my experience",  etc. Here, they are calling attention to the normally implicit self sense that is usually doing these things, and then trying to notice the sensations that make up that sense. So for example, one could state "I am looking", and then notice what that feels like in the body. Often, it is associated with sensations behind the eyes, and by noticing it they are objectifying these sensations, bringing them into the foreground, and therefore removing them from the implicit self sense and into the sense that phenomenon is just happening, i.e., something more like "there is looking" instead of "I am looking".

The second orientation is that of negating the self stance. Instead of stating, for example, "I am looking", you state instead, "there is nobody looking", and then observe how awareness and sensations in the body react. One might get a direct sense that there is just the seeing happening, without a sense of the observer. Or alternatively they might notice a strong sense of the observer that is defensively reacting to the assertion. In the latter case, one can again notice the sensations that make up the experience, and then let them dissolve. As with affirmations, there are many possible permutations that the person can play with.

The third category is that of questioning the self stance. The classic question again is "who am I", but there are many other possibilities (almost infinite). Some that I have found really useful include: "where am I", "what is aware", "what is aware of looking/hearing/sensing/feeling", "who looks/sees/feels" "to whom or what is this appearing to", "when am I", "where is the awareness of feeling", and "where is my mind". The point with these is again to dig up the normally implicit sense of self that is performing some task, is located in some particular location and time, and then noticing that it is comprised of sensations that can be objectified and therefore seen as not self (because by definition the self cannot be the thing that is noticed). This can also be applied readily to emotions that inevitably come in during meditation. For example, "who is feeling anxious/sad/angry", or "where is the awareness of this anxiety/sadness/anger located".

I don't recommend sticking to a set formula for this, even if one particular strategy seemed to be effective in the past. Cultivating and learning to trust ones intuition plays a big role in this process. I do recommend starting any practice with an initial settling-in period, a gentle mindfulness of what sensations or energies seem most prominent in experience. And then, use ones intuition or interest to guide the practice from there, to find the affirmation, negation, or question that seems have the most juice. If an approach starts to seem bland, one can continue to switch it up until some kind of energetic movement takes place. Find the path of least resistance. More broadly, one might also find that self inquiry is too intellectual and stressful at the moment, and would prefer to relax into straight mindfulness of body sensations.

With practice one starts to develop a feel for the process, a meta-cognitive intuition that highlights the correct technique at the appropriate time to slowly untangle the sense of a permanent and separate "observer". Over time, this may lead to experience becoming more like a decentralized and fluid network of cognitive moments, more responsive and intelligent than if everything was being passed through the central node of the sense of self-locus.



Sunday, July 16, 2017

On the Identity of Fatherhood

I am going to be a father soon!

I had this question: Does being a good, responsive, and supportive father require that I incorporate the rigid identity of being a father, of saying to myself, "I am a father", making that part of my felt essence? This question is important to me for at least a couple of reasons. First, the nature of my spiritual practice is to deconstruct the normally implicit sense of self, which upon further inspection (in my experience) breaks down into micro sensations in the body and narratives in the mind that are quite ephemeral. Holding on to the rigid perception of myself as the "father" would seem to be in conflict with this. Second, (and maybe this is just a way to rationalize the first), I suspect that clinging too closely to any identity is actually counterproductive to thriving in the world..

In my own experience, I am most at peace and most effective (i.e., a combination of being empathetic, responsive, and creative) when I maintain a kind of non-dual and instinctual awareness. That is, when I am simply in the moment, not overthinking things, and reality appears as just the next thing that is arising and being responded to within a larger field of awareness. This instead of the notion that "I" as a particular identity am controlling things.

I am moved by the following quote from Khalil Gibran on the nature of parenting:

"Your children are not your children. 
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. 
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you."

Of course it is necessary at times for parent and child to play their respective roles (e.g. for the child to listen to the father as the father), but at the same time, it is important that the child be given the space to define themselves in a mutually evolving relationship. It seems to me that rigid identities would limit the ability to have a truly intimate and dynamic relationship.

I have recently been reading the book The Evolving Self: Problem and Process in Human Development, by Robert Kegan, which I love and highly recommend. He describes 5 stages of human development, where in each case we emerge from an embeddenness in a previous subjectivity. This is how he describes this emergence:

"Something cannot be internalized until we emerge from our embeddedness in it, for it is our embeddedness, our subjectivity, that leads us to project it onto the world in our constitution of reality...We have begun to see not only how the subject-object balance can be spoken of as the deep structure in meaning-evolution, but also that there is something regular about the process of evolution itself. Growth always involves a process of differentiation, of emergence from embeddedness (Schachtel, 1959), thus creating out of the former subject a new object to be taken by the new subjectivity."

In stage three he describes the interpersonal self, where the person IS their relationships, but they lack any ideological self-determination and autonomy. In stage four he describes the institutional self. The self that, instead of being its relationships, HAS relationships  that are mediated through an ideological autonomy. Not surprisingly in this stage true intimacy is not possible.

In stage five, the person recognizes the limitations of both stage three and four. It is described in the following two passages:

"When the self is located not in the institutional but in the coordinating of the institutional, one's own and others, the interior life gets "freed up" (or "broken open") within oneself, and with others; this new dynamism, flow, or play results from the capacity of the new self to move back and forth between psychic systems within itself. Emotional conflict seems to become both recognizable and tolerable to the "Self""

"Such an organization might solve the vacillation between "judgement" or "instinct" by bringing into being a more integrative "judgement", the ultimate purpose of which is not the maintenance of the institutional self for whom feelings are often administrative "problems," but the more dynamic exercises of interindividuality, in which the self is not its duties, roles, or institutions, but the "haver" of them, which having is regulated by the recognition of one's commonality or interdependence with others, others who might even be turned to "instinctually" with no violation of one's "judgement". 









Thursday, October 23, 2014

I felt a million living tendrils
rooting through the thing I was,
as if I'd turned to earth before my death
Or in my death somehow could feel.

-Christian Wiman

On beauty causing suffering and the need to take pictures

I have noticed that I suffer more in beautiful natural surroundings, simply for the reason that I expect myself to more fully appreciate it, and that creates stress. The way I had often dealt with this in the past is to take a picture, even though pictures NEVER do justice and when I look at them later I am almost ambivalent. As if by taking a picture I could immortalize this moment, prevent impermanence, and absorb its beauty over a lifetime (and my kids lifetimes).

No. This moment will never happen again. I cannot immortalize it. I cannot fully appreciate it. It is already leaving. And I shouldn't even try to savor it. The part of me that needs to appreciate and hold onto it is suffering. Every moment is just as precious (and mundane) as ever other. And until I let go of needing the moment to be anything other than what it is, or keeping it as it is, there will be suffering. 

Tuesday, October 07, 2014

Learning to hear it as music

It is as if each of us were always hearing some strange, complicated music in the background of our lives, music that, so long as it remains in the background, is not simply distracting but manifestly unpleasant, because it demands the attention we are giving to other things. It is not hard to hear this music, but it is very difficult to learn to hear it as music.
Christian Wiman

Saturday, October 04, 2014

Hunger for Something

Sometimes I long to be the woodpile,
cut-apart trees soon to be smoke,
or even the smoke itself,

sinewy ghost of ash and air, going
wherever I want to, at least for a while

Neither inside nor out,
neither lost nor home, no longer
a shape or a name, I'd pass through

all the broken windows of the world.
It's not a wish for consciousness to end.

It's not the appetite an army has
for its own emptying heart,
but a hunger to stand now and then

alone on the death-grounds,
where the dogs of the self are feeding

Chase Twichell

Friday, October 03, 2014

Wiman on Incomprehensibility

The frustration we feel when trying to explain or justify God, whether to ourselves or to others, is a symptom of knowledge untethered from innocence, of words in which no silence lives, of belief occurring wholly on a human plane. Innocence returns us to the first call of God, to any moment in our lives when we were rendered mute with awe, fear, wonder. Absent this, there is no sense in arguing for God in order to convince others, for we ourselves are not convinced...

There is no clean intellectual coherence, no abstract ultimate meaning to be found, and if this is not recognized, then the compulsion to find such certainty becomes its own punishment. This realization is not the end of theology, but the beginning of it: trust no theory, no religious history or creed, in which the author's personal faith is not actively at risk.


Christian Wiman



The comprehensible slips away, is transformed; instead of possession one learns relationship, and there arises a namelessness that must begin once more in our relations with God if we are to be complete and without evasion. The experience of feeling him recedes behind an infinite delight in everything that can be felt; all attributes are taken away from God, who is no longer sayable, and fall back into creation, into love and death.


Rainer Maria Rilke - as quoted by Christian Wiman


Wednesday, October 01, 2014

The Goal is the Path

Instead of recognizing that the training is the indivisible unity of path and fruition and that this fruition is present as a natural possession, the basic straying is to believe that the path is the training, while the fruition will be attained at another point...

The basic straying is to regard the emotion to be discarded and the training as separate and so to use the training as a remedy against the emotion. Whenever a thought moves or when encountering a difficult situation, the temporary straying is (to believe that) one can only be composed in meditation after the difficulty has been overcome...

Instead of recognizing that the training is the indivisible unity of means and knowledge and that all phenomena are the essence itself, the basic straying is to generalize with a conceptual focus that they are devoid of self-nature. Rather than putting the training to use, the temporary straying is to generalize by wanting to recreate a past experience. Or, it could be to believe that meditation should interrupt thoughts: "I am dissatisfied with the present state. I must create a better one later!"

Dakpo Tashi Namgyal


...And that is where the joy came in.

Incurable and unbelieving
in any truth but the truth of grieving

I saw a tree inside a tree
rise kaleidoscopically

as if the leaves had livelier ghosts.
I pressed my face as close

to the pane as I could get
to watch that fitful, fluent spirit

that seemed a single being undefined
or countless beings of one mind

haul its strange cohesion
beyond the limits of my vision

over the house heavenwards.
Of course I knew those leaves were birds.

Of course that old tree stood
exactly as it had and would

(but why should it seem fuller now?)
and though a man's mind might endow

even a tree with some excess
of life to which a man seems witness,

that life is not the life of men.
And that is where the joy came in.

-Christian Wiman